boundaries
PP 10: Postulant Polyamory – A Roadmap for the Newbs Part 1 (Syndicated)
by Life on the Swingset | Dec 15 2011Gavin is taking a stand in this episode of POSTULANT Polyamory. It's time to welcome the newbs.. apparently. First, Shira talks about dating a swinger and Gavin talks about going to a kinky BDSM rope party and learning about Japanese rope bondage and other fun knotty origami ropey things. Then shit gets basic: What is polyamory? Who is polyamorous and who isn't? How do you prepare yourself for entering the world of polyamory? Where do you find a community of poly peeps to get you started? How... Tags: BDSM, boundaries, community, japanese rope bondage, Pedestrian Polyamory, podcast, Poly 101, polyamory, polyamory podcast, swingers, tokenization, veto power
Bailing on Dates (Syndicated)
by The Polyamorous Misanthrope | Dec 02 2011I met my secondary partner earlier this year and we took our time getting to know each other before we played, and agreed to start a play-partnership. Then a few months ago she met a new primary, and I only found this out when she added a new relationship status up online. As a result I haven’t seen her since August. She’s in the throes of NRE and has bailed (last minute) on every one of our 5 arranged dates since meeting him. Well, one of my own rules for myself that a string of... Tags: Ask the Misanthrope, boundaries, communication
New NATIONAL Tele-Class on Boundaries & Needs! (Syndicated)
by Your Relationship - Your Choice | Nov 06 2011Are you frustrated? Upset? Resentful? You may have a violated boundary or an un-met need! A boundary is defined as a line that marks the limits of an area, a division point, if you will, between one thing and whatever is not that. When applied to our interpersonal relationships, a boundary might be drawn between acceptable behavior and what's not acceptable, between what we will tolerate and what we won't. And yet, few of us are ever directly challenged to examine and clearly identify our... Tags: boundaries, coaching, needs, relationship, tele-class
On Gaslighting (Syndicated)
by The Polyamorous Misanthrope | Nov 02 2011This guest column was written by Peter J. Vinton, Jr., aka The Prince. It’s Just A Trifle Lily innocuously asks a favor of you one day. Say, a quick phone call asking you to pick up her friend Orlando in front of the hardware store, and then to drop him off at the grocery store, where he works. Both stops are on the way to your work, so it won’t be any extra time or mileage out of your way. She gives you a pickup time of 6:30. This is perhaps ten minutes earlier than you normally pass by... Tags: boundaries, communication, Guest Column
Being Informed and Dirty Little Secrets in Polyamory (Syndicated)
by The Polyamorous Misanthrope | Aug 10 2011I wanted to message you (as I’m sure most people who message you do) about a poly/open relationship I’m in. As for the background, I’ve been separated for about 11 months and have been seeing someone for the last two and a half. He is also divorced and on the third night that he stayed over, I told him that I was not interested in an exclusive relationship. He said he felt the same and we agreed on condoms with others. I told him I wanted to know what was going on with him... Tags: Ask the Misanthrope, boundaries
Hey Annie: Issue #22
by Annie Ory | Jun 22 2011 |0Solo or No... Tags: Advice, bi, bisexual, boundaries, fairness, going solo, Jealousy, negotiation, open marriage, open relationship, play, playing, poly, polyamory, solo, swinger, swingers, voyeurism
Hey Annie-- Issue #24
by Annie Ory | Jun 22 2011 |0Don’t Call Me Baby... Tags: Advice, babe, baby, boundaries, honey pot, Jealousy, love, lovey, petnames, poly, polyamory, pookums, relationships, respect, special, trust
Surviving the Green Eyed Monster - Assessing the current situation (Syndicated)
by Young Metro Poly | Jun 14 2011When faced with a situation that puts us on the defensive, we sometimes jump to the wrong conclusion. Sometimes a "jealous" response is prompted by more than the other person's insecurities. The reaction could be based in injury from a breach of trust. read more Tags: boundaries, cheating, communication, emotional intimacy, fidelity, intellectual intimacy, monogamy, nonmonogamy, Poly 101
Hey Annie-- Issue #21
by Annie Ory | May 13 2011 |0Too Much, Too Soon... Tags: bisexual, boundaries, communication, feelings, first time, heartbreak, Jealousy, lesbian, new to poly, poly, polyamory, relationships, responsibility, rights, trust
Hey Annie-- Issue #19
by Annie Ory | Mar 09 2011 |0Fragility and hiding... Tags: Advice, boundaries, cheating, distance, hiding, hurt, infidelity, LDR, long distance relationships, lying, poly, polyamory, trust
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